ANGER

Anger is a natural human sensation or response when you feel that something or someone has done something wrong. Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, neither good nor bad. It conveys a message that a situation is upsetting, unjust, or threatening. Anger is triggered when a person believes they have been wronged by someone, that something unfair or unjust has happened, or that their well-being and social status are either not being respected or are under threat. No person can make us angry; rather, anger is influenced by people’s thoughts. Though anger is often seen as harmful, it can be a healthy emotional response when one expresses it vigorously and respectfully. Sometimes anger can be helpful. It can motivate a person to take positive action to change a situation for the better or to achieve his or her goal. Regular experiences of anger should not be ignored. Angry outbursts can cause fear, regret, and/or work, relationship, and health problems for both oneself and others. When anger prompts someone to use violence, physical injury and even loss of life can occur. Angry people often report regretting their eruptions.

Angry people always feel that their anger is justified. However, other people don't always agree. The social judgment of anger creates real consequences for the angry person. An angry person may feel justified in committing an angry, aggressive action. People who express their anger in an inappropriate or harmful manner may experience problems in their relationships or other aspects of their life. A study found that experiencing anger is inevitable, but it is possible to learn to react thoughtfully while in this negative state rather than immediately lashing out, which usually leads to regrettable words and actions. It conveys a message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, unjust, or threatening. If your knee-jerk reaction to anger is to explode, however, that message never has a chance to be conveyed. So, while it’s perfectly normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged, anger becomes a problem when you express it in a way that harms yourself or others.

Anger can also mask anxiety. When you perceive a threat, either real or imagined, your body activates the “fight or flight” response. In the case of the “fight” response, it can often manifest itself as anger or aggression. To change your response, you need to find out what’s causing you to feel anxious or scared. Anger problems can stem from what you learned as a child. If you watched others in your family scream, hit each other, or throw things, you might think this is how anger is supposed to be expressed. Have you ever gotten into an argument over something silly? Big fights often happen over something small, like a dish left out or being ten minutes late. But there’s usually a bigger issue behind it. If you find your irritation and anger rapidly rising, ask yourself, “What am I really angry about?” Identifying the real source of frustration will help you communicate your anger better, take constructive action, and work towards a resolution. Is your anger masking other feelings such as embarrassment, insecurity, hurt, shame, or vulnerability? If your knee-jerk response in many situations is anger, it’s likely that your temper is covering up your true feelings. This is especially likely if you grew up in a family where expressing feelings was strongly discouraged. As an adult, you may have a hard time acknowledging feelings other than anger.

Impacts of anger

Prolonged anger that flares up all the time or spirals out of control can have serious results for your:

• Physical health - Constantly operating at high levels of stress and anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
• Mental health - Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
• Career - Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy. But lashing out only alienates your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect.
• Relationships - Anger can cause lasting scars in the people you love most and get in the way of friendships and work relationships. Explosive anger makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable—and is especially damaging to children.

If you have a hot temper, you may feel like it’s out of your hands and there’s little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. With insight about the real reasons for your anger and these anger management tools, you can learn to express your emotions without hurting others and keep your temper from hijacking your life.

Frustration 

Frustration is a common sentiment that you could feel when things don’t go the way you expected or because of your incompetence to accomplish something. Frustration is a key negative feeling that stems from disappointment. The frustration is amalgamated with anger or preceded by a feeling of incapability. Being in a constant state of frustration can lead to many problems in our life. If you continue pursuing a goal without any result, the frustration can lead to many problems in your life.

What are the Signs of Frustration

The signs of frustration could vary from person to person. Usually, the common signs of frustration include:

• Losing temper
• Anger
• Irritability
• Feeling anxious or on edge
• Annoyed

Remember, feelings of frustration are common. You are not alone in frustration. It is incumbent you can consider taking mindful steps. Being in a constant state of frustration can lead to many problems in your life, such as depression, anger, loss of confidence, aggressive behavior, stress, and irritability.

How to manage frustration? It is to understand your feelings by identifying them and wringing them out. You can also change how it impacts your daily life by:

Physical Activity

• Cooling down your body
• Deep-breathing exercise
• Anger versus frustration

Frustration is a less passionate feeling than anger; it is often caused by small irritations or tenderness. You may become frustrated if you spill your morning coffee or stub your toe on a piece of furniture. Frustration might lead to anger if these small inconveniences add up or if you are under a considerable amount of stress. Frustration is a feeling of annoyance that occurs when something does not happen as you expect.

Rage

Rage is defined as a more extreme form of anger. The symptoms of rage vary from person to person. Rage is a feeling of intense anger that leads to acting or speaking with fury; showing or feeling violent anger; criticizing, moving, rushing, smashing, or surging violently. Rage is often used to denote hostile or affective aggression. Rage tends to be conveyed when a person faces a threat to their pride, position, and aptitude.

Rage Symptoms

Rage attacks may seem to commence without warning. However, little signs may possibly be seen, incorporating:

Anxiety

• Increased distress
• Increased stress. When the rage attack happens, symptoms might include:
• Physical aggression.
• Extreme anger
• Screaming or shouting

Our prophet, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, has given the following advice:

1. A man said to the prophet of Allah, "Give me advice." The prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, said, "Do not get angry." Hence, anger is a destructive emotion.
2. The prophet, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said if a person controlled his anger, he would be able to control everything else. This is why our prophet mentioned in another hadith, "The powerful man is not the one who can wrestle, but the powerful man is the one who can control himself at the time of anger."
3. Those who spend in Allah’s cause in prosperity and in adversity, who repress their anger, and who pardon men, verily, Allah loves the good-doers.
4. The prophet, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: "If one says, 'I seek refuge in Allah from Satan,' then all his anger will go away."
5. The prophet of Allah, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, "When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise, he should lie down."
6. The prophet of Allah, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, "If one of you becomes angry, then he should stay silent."
7. The Prophet Allah, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, "Anger comes from the devil; the devil was created from fire, and fire is extinguished only with water. So when one of you becomes angry, he should make wudu.
8. The prophet of Allah, may peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said, "And those who restrain their anger and pardon men. And Allah loves the doers of good to others. And those who, when they commit an indecency or wrong their souls, remember Allah and ask forgiveness for their sins. And who forgives sins but Allah? And they persist not knowingly in what they do." (Ch. 3:133,134)

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